Resources for Navigating New Loss

First Steps

In the immediate aftermath of losing a spouse, grief can feel all-consuming, and the mental fog that follows is completely normal. Unfortunately, this confusion often coincides with a flood of responsibilities that require prompt attention. If you’ve never faced this situation before, you may be unsure where to begin or what steps are necessary.

To make this transition a little easier, I’ve gathered a selection of guides and checklists from reliable websites. These resources cover tasks you may need to address after the loss of a spouse. Every situation is unique, so use these lists to identify what’s relevant to you and create your own personalized checklist. Also keep in mind that laws regarding probate and other matters can vary from state to state—so you may need to search for information specific to your area. Online research can be a valuable ally as you navigate these next steps.

10 Things You Need to Do as Soon as You are a Widow

Marcie Lyons

A To-Do List for the Surviving Spouse

Kiplinger

Ten Things I Wish I Had Told Me About Being a Widow

Today

Widowed: What to Do When

Focus on the Family

What to Say in a Thank You Note

Funeralwise

State-By State Probate Laws

Everplans

Tool + Resources

Wealthcare 4 Widows

How to memorialize a Facebook profile

Important: If you are listed as their legacy contact, you will be able to manage the profile after it has been memorialized. If you do not have this designation but know the password, make sure to add yourself as the legacy contact before requesting the page be switched to memorial status.

Save Voicemails

Saving voicemails from my husband was important to me, so I made sure to download them directly to my phone. On an iPhone, the process is straightforward: open the voicemail message, tap the share icon, and select “Save to Files.” If you use a different type of phone, there are likely similar options available—searching YouTube or Google for instructions tailored to your device can help.

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